As Reality TV Star Tacha Launches her Natacha Akide Initiative (NAI) today

A reality star Natacha Akide who is widely known for humanitarian nature, humility, focused and business mind will be kicking off this project with Government Girls Secondary School, Rumuokwuta Port Harcourt and will extend it to every geopolitical zone in Nigeria.

According to her post made in the early hour of today 5/2/ 2020.

Natacha Akide initiative has launched a project, Pad for Every Girl (PEG). Myself and my team will be sharing sanitary pads and giving lectures on Menstrual Hygiene Management, for girls in secondary school. Today, we are starting with Government Girls Secondary School, Rumuokwuta Port Harcourt and i promise you that the journey doesn’t end here. We will continue to educate and impact on the GIRL CHILD. Please join us and extend a helping hand to our girls, they are the future of tomorrow.   NAI PEG

The aim of this project is to educate the girl child on personal hygiene especially before and after their menstrual cycle and to enlighten them on the needs to always use sanitary pad, when to change their sanitary pads, how many hours a girl should wear her sanitary pad and how to properly dispose it

The next will be the free distribution of sanitary pads which is the major reason for the visit.

We all know that the high increase of Sanitary has brought about lots of vaginal infection because so many families can no longer afford it monthly.

Nigeria is one of the many countries that tax menstrual products, putting further strain on women and girls from underprivileged communities.

Between 2015 and 2018, sanitary pads like Always Ultra rose from N250 to N400, Always Classic from N200 to N300, and Lady Care from N250 to N400. Most Tampon brand products which sold for N750 have risen to about N1200.

The reason for the price hike can be traced to the inflation in the country and the fall in the exchange value of the national currency, the naira.

Although sanitary pads are the healthiest and most convenient menstrual management products because they are comfortable and leave little or no stain, IFUNANYA BLOG research showed that many Nigerian girls and young women now use cloth napkins, cotton wools and tissue paper for economics reasons.

The NAI organization will welcome any form of support to make sure this project and more to come will be a continues success.

Student points a gun at his teacher and forces her to change his grades (photos)

A high school student was caught on video threatening his teacher with a gun to change his poor grade and give him a passing grade.


In a video of the incident, which occurred in a school in Brazil, the boy is seen standing beside a female teacher, with a gun pointed at her. There were other boys in the class giving him support. One was filming and can be heard offering words of encouragement in the background. Another was seen making faces in front of the camera as their mate held their teacher at gunpoint.


Speaking Portuguese, the student is heard telling his teacher to “change his grade” while his mates laughed.

The video was shared online and immediately went viral, prompting police to take action and go in search of the teenager.

The boy is currently on the run.

NYSC, national integration and diasporan unity


By Emmanuel Onwubiko


For two weeks in June 2018, yours faithfully sojourned in the United Kingdom on my annual vacation and an integral aspect of my vacation workload was to conduct empirical researches and a cocktail of interview sessions with some Nigerians.

Those Nigerians were basically and randomly chosen to reflect the diverse ethno-religious affiliations that characterize Nigeria.

The core question asked was to ascertain the contribution that their involvement as former participants in the National Youth Service Corp scheme has helped shaped the horizone of their world views (weltanschauung) of integrating fully and in real time with members of the different socio-cultural communities from Nigeria who reside legitimately and are engaged in legitimate tasks in the different cities of the United Kingdom and beyond. The inquiry was motivated by the generally agreed consensus that Nigeria now has a serious challenge of divisiveness which can be resolved if national integration is mainstreamed into our daily way of life as citizens of Nigeria in Nigeria and wherever we find ourselves around the global community of humanity. There is also the consensus that Nigeria over the past few decades have witnessed progressive brain drain of Nigerian graduates who had moved to overseas nations around the World, settled and are in most cases very successful in their professional careers. The study i did was primarily to ascertain the place of the NYSC’s experiences for these kinds of Nigerians based abroad with specific reference to how they relate with each other so as to provide possible guide to solving the ever expanding issues of divisiveness amongst Nigerians living in our homeland. In going about this task, yours faithfully took over one week to search for the resource persons willing to participate since it is more of a personal patriotic initiative to use an institutional example to try to find panacea to our troubling times. 

Luckily, Emeka Nwaobasi Okonkwo, James Musa, Bankole Adebowale and Smart Odion were the persons that yours faithfully interviewed in the different areas around London, the internationally acclaimed tourism capital of Western Europe.

Emeka who was the first of the four interviewed told this reporter that he took part in the NYSC scheme over two decades ago even as he narrated how his foray in search of higher post graduate qualifications took him to Manchester City in the United Kingdom over 17 years back.

“A factor that shaped the fundamentals of my outlooks on life and social interactions amongst the diverse people of Nigeria remains the lessons of constructive and positive national integration I learnt whilst serving in the then capital of Borno State of Maiduguri.”

“My one year stay in Maiduguri brought me face-to-face with virtually persons from approximately 45 percent of the ethno-religious configurations that make up contemporary Nigeria.

NYSC gave me the practical lesson on how to relate, interface and socialize with persons of diverse affiliations as people united under one nation by God.

James Musa, unlike Emeka who hails from Imo state, comes from Gombe but met his wife whilst serving in Obolo Afor in Enugu state who has now given him three beautiful children.

Mr. James who spoke with this writer over some Cups of Coffee in Oxford Street Central London, was full of praises in the area of national integration that we got about fifteen years back in NYSC.” He further narrated to me how he and his wife are top members of the diaporan community in the United Kingdom and how they have remained committed and profoundly faithful in their zeal to ensure that the NYSC is not allowed to die.

For the NYSC which he attributed to the quality interactions he now engage with many Nigerians from the different communities living in East London.

“I think am deeply appreciative of the times we spent serving within the framework of the NYSC scheme there is positivism in the pragmatic lessons.

Bankole Adebowale spoke with this writer in company of his wife who he told me served in Makurdi, Benue State about ten years even as he did his twelve calendar months service in Calabar, Cross Rivers State.

Bankole told me that it may have been the commonality of their lessons imbibed during their respective NYSC schemes that fastracked their union.

The wife, Mrs. Aisha who also spoke informed this writer that they met at the post graduate campus of a university in Scotland and started exchanging ideas on what was learnt or otherwise during their ‘splendid’ periods of NYSC.

“Now I no longer see a person from outside of my Igala Community in Kogi state as a strange person.

Mr. Bankole told this writer that he has rich recollections of how most of the people he met whilst serving in Makurdi, Benue State were more than willing to embrace him as an uncle just as he disclosed that his beautiful memories of his service years have positively made him a patriotic Nigerian who has consistently thought about the positive things his family will bring on board to contribute to civilization and sustainable development in Nigeria.

Mr. Bankole further recalled that the Director-General, National Youth Service Corp (NYSC), Brig.-Gen. Suleiman Kazaure had urged corps members to actively participate in skills acquisition trainings in order to make them self-reliant.

Kazaure he told me gave this charge in an interview with the News Agency of Nigeria in Sokoto. To him, this initiative makes a lot of sense in such a way that a way has been found to marry the virtues of national integration with skills acquisitions which in effect makes economic empowerment of the youth very integral in the scheme of things at an institutional level.  

“More than eight skills acquisition programmes were designed for corps members in collaboration with some agencies to facilitate the training programmess,” the director-general was quoted by Bankole to have said. Bankole told me that he has consistently followed development in NYSC closely even from his base in London. 

Kazaure he said noted that the skills acquisition trainings were introduced to promote self-reliance and encourage entrepreneurship to enhance the nation’s economic growth.

He, however, cautioned corps members against unnecessary travellings and urged them to be disciplined in their relationships with the NYSC authorities and their host communities.

The director-general said that he was at “Wamakko Orientation Camp” to ensure corps members’ well-being and motivate them for the lined up programmes, aimed at preparing them for the future challenges.

Kazaure advised them to put the nation’s development first; promote virtues and downplay sentiments in the interest of national unity. Bankole told this writer that he heard it on good authority that there has been impressive Improvement of the state of the various orientation camps nationwide. Under his watch all the hostel in all NYSC Orientation camps are wearing new looks with fans installed in the hostels. The quality of food cooked and served in camps is like never before. Corps members confess that they are served with Chicken and egg regularly in the camp. 

“The DG is intensifying on his advocacy visits to the various state government without Permanent NYSC Orientation camp for them to build in their state with at least 5000 capacity. The advocacy visits is indeed yielding positive dividends with some states indicating their interest to build a state of the earth orientation camps” On my return i met some key officials who are not necessarily close to the Director General but who are nevertheless vast with the workings of their institution over the years and these persons confirmed the veracity of the above claims on the building of skills acquisition centres by the management so as to aid national integration which is at the heart of the NYSC. 

Of all the people spoken to, Mr. Smart Odion perhaps volunteered what can be considered a very smart suggestions. He called on the hierarchy of the NYSC to open skeletal liaison offices in some first class embassies in Germany, France, United Kingdom, Canada, United States and Malaysia and staff each with at least two persons to coordinate the interfaces between higher institutions in those jurisdictions that produces the largest chunk of participants in the scheme. He is of the opinion that the mandate of these liaison offices should include the face to face verification of certificates tendered by these prospective participants in the NYSC scheme so as to cut down on costs and quicken the process of actual verifications of standards and validity of such qualifications amongst other salient mandate that should include mapping out strategies and necessary partner institutions that the director general and his very limited number of management staff would from time to time pay working visits to these institutions to familiarize with the standards and educational mechanisms in place in those institutions that are known to churn out greater percentage of would be participants in the NYSC scheme. 

These working visits abroad should also be transparently used to scout for funding partner institutions that can assist the NYSC achieve the blueprints of evolutionary developments put in place to progressively reposition the NYSC to become increasingly self-funding in some critical areas so as to help government reduce funding abuse, he narrated. 

The debate around the issues of national integration has resonated in the work done by ONIFADE, Comfort Adenike (Corresponding author) of the Department of Communication & General Studies, Federal University of Agriculture Abeokuta, Nigeria. Those spoken with in United kingdom informed me that the research I’m about to cite resonates with the lessons of integration as the core objective of their NYSC days in Nigeria vis a vis their ability to navigate the thorny issue of enjoying constructive interfaces with other Nigerians from diverse Ethno Religious affiliations also living in the UK. 

The aforementioned authors wrote as following: “Since the inception of the Nigerian nation, Nigerian governments, past and present, have made serious efforts to propagate policies and programmes that are geared towards national integration”. 

Despite such well-intended and unity-oriented programmes and policies, Nigeria’s unity has continued to be plagued and threatened by embedded socio-cultural, religious and political dichotomies, he noted. 

According to these scholars who seems to have backed what those Nigerians living in the UK told this writer, unless efforts are made to checkmate these divisive tendencies towards national integration, the long expected and loudly proclaimed oneness and indivisibility of Nigeria will remain a utopia. 

This paper, silhouetted against the backdrop of structural functionalism, advocates the necessity for national integration and the factors that are militating against the much desired national unity in Nigeria. These authors indeed took the exact words of those Nigerians spoken to by me out of their mouths and embellished their research literally. 

In the study under analysis, the authors just like the resource persons spoken to in the UK gave suggestions on how Nigeria can achieve national integration. 

“This paper believes that achieving national integration is contingent on jumping the hurdles of ethnicity, corruption, a narcissistic political leadership, weak institutions and others. It concludes that to claim the victory for an integrated Nigeria, the people must lead the vanguard of change and that for the continued existence of Nigeria to be guaranteed probably for another centennial, consensual agreement must be reached by its diverse ethnic nationalities.”

Nation-building or national integration they stated has long been seen as an important focus for postcolonial African governments. 

As some scholars noted, upon African decolonization in the 1950s and 1960s, social scientists were concerned about the need for what was then called “national integration” in societies with multiple ethnic, religious and racial cleavages (Binder, 1964; Coleman & Rosberg, 1966; Zolberg, 1967). 

Quoting Bandyopadhyay & Green (2009)who  argued that this concern has been more recently resurrected by Miguel (2004), Collier (2009) and others who have advocated for national integration as a policy to promote state building in a continent now notorious for and rife with political instability and economic throwback, these authors just like my interviewees restated their call for proper mainstreaming if national integration as a collective national ideology for all Nigerians both at home and in the DIASPORA communities. 

They recalled that as Ifeanacho & Nwagwu (2009) observed, Nigeria’s efforts at achieving national integration have remained largely unrealized. 

In their words, the history of democratization in Africa, in general, and Nigeria, in particular, has remained the history of national disintegration. Thus, the integration crisis facing Nigeria is manifest in the minority question, religious fundamentalism and conflicts, ethnic politics, indigene-settler dialectic, resource control, youth restiveness and militancy and the clamour for a (sovereign) national conference or conversation about the terms of the nation’s continued unification.  My interviewees in the UK canvassed the acceptance of the NYSC scheme as a strategic component in our collective aspirations to create a harmonious and peaceful society because of the centrality of the thematic virtue of national integration.

The status quo they said has convulsed the productive sector, limited the impact of government’s economic programmes on the people, threatened food insecurity, complexified social insecurity, deepened the deterioration of physical and social infrastructures, distressed the living standards of a vast majority of Nigerians, militated against the educational system and resulted in the ostracisation of the generality of Nigerians and their exclusion from the political and economic space, among other glitches. The entire social matrix in Nigeria is characterized by inter- and intra-community, inter and intra-ethnic, and interand intra-religious strife. Some of these conflicts are as old as the history of the Nigerian nation.

Like India, a federal state with its pluralized ethnic, religious and cultural status, these researchers reasoned that Nigeria is a deeply divided and plural society (Ojo, 2009). 

Many scholars they recalled have tried to put a figure to the number of ethnic groups within the polity at well over 250 (Attah, 1987; Onwujeogwu (1987); Kirk-Green, 1969:4; Otite, 1990; Suberu, 1998). Ojo (2009) contends that “Nigeria has a unique problem not experienced by any state in the world past or present. 

“The problem is that of achieving solidarity in action and purpose in the midst of hundreds of ethnic nationalities each exerting both centrifugal and centripetal forces on the central issue of the nation, bound in freedom, peace and unity where justice reigns.”

They recalled that although the British colonialists and the Nigerian elite that succeeded them used ethnicity to perfect their political strategies and notch up some socio-economic and political gains, as Emelonye & Buergenthal (2011) observed, poverty and ineffective governance in Nigeria today have further sharpened ethnic divisions leading to misunderstanding between ethnic and religious groups who see themselves as rivals that must be surpassed by any means, thus hampering national integration. My interviewees then pointed to the kind of positive lessons of integration passed on to them during the NYSC scheme as a key factor to resolving these fundamental challenges of nation building process alluded to by the aforementioned University researchers who work we are relying on to lay the solid framework to the issues that played up throughout the interview sessions i conducted in the United Kingdom on the proper place of NYSC lessons of national integration on their relationships with other fellow citizens. 

The authors add that because the Nigerian state is beginning to lose legitimacy and authority, the fear of uncertainty has increased to the extent that citizens now resort to self-help, seeking security and solidarity in their own ethnic, religious or regional affiliation and identity. 

According to them, a new dimension to Nigeria’s ethno-religious violence is the increasing recruitment and mobilization of ethnic and regional militias, vigilantes and other armed groups: the Oodua People’s Congress in Yorubaland, the Arewa People’s Congress in the north, the Bakassi Boys in the east, the Egbesu in the south, and the emergence of a supercilious army of terror merchants who represent contending interests to Nigeria’s detriment. 

“The implication of these hydra-headed conflicts is that national integration suffers, there is increasing insecurity of citizens and property in the country, foreign investment is deterred and economic development is stymied”.

This issue of national integration in Nigeria, they repeat, highlights programmes aimed at achieving it and examines innate challenges that frustrate the process of integration in the country. 

In a pragmatic sense, NYSC has a central role in shaping the depth of national integration as a collective ideology for all. As i was putting pen to paper, one of Nigeria’s most celebrated musicians known with the stage name of DAVIDO was captured in the media registering to participate in this ongoing NYSC scheme even as a thought flashed through my subconscious to task the management of NYSC to work out ways of using this flambouyant but successful young Nigerian talented singer to unveil a project to be centred around devoting some of his service periods to preach national integration to fundamentally and most profoundly bring into practical fruition the essence of the core objective of the National youth Service scheme. This opportunity must never be missed. This is because of Davido’s global reach as a popular brand in the World.  

Emmanuel Onwubiko heads the Human Rights Writers Association of Nigeria (HURIWA) and has just returned from the United Kingdom. He can be reached on



A known prophet declared that he has over 55 new sex styles to teach

The Founder and Leader of the Heaven’s Gate Ministries, Nicholas Osei, popularly known as Prophet Kumchacha, has revealed that he has mastered over 55 sex styles to satisfy women.

Speaking in an interview with Accra-based Hitz Fm, the pastor noted that God had blessed him with an exceptional strength that makes satisfying any woman he meets in bed very easy.

Kumchacha was speaking on the need for Christian men and women to be romantic in bed.

He further stated that he has fifty-five different kinds of sex styles which he tries out on ladies whenever he engages in the act.

According to him, “Every individual has a style he or she prefers during sex. For me, I have fifty-five sex styles and when I meet you in bed, I will unleash them to satisfy you.”

He said most Pastors and Christians are not romantic but advised that during sexual intercourse, they release the beast in them.

How human traffickers trick job seekers into slavery abroad — NAPTIP

lagos—THE National Agency for the Prohibition of Trafficking in Persons, NAPTIP, weekend in Lagos, advised Nigerians especially job seekers to be wary of human traffickers hiding  under the guise of securing foreign employment for youths  only to turn them into slaves on arrival.

 Director-General of the Dame Julie Okah-Donli, speaking at a one-day interactive forum tagged ‘Micro Influencers Dialogue with DG NAPTIP, explained that these traffickers used online platform to advertise vacancies for jobs abroad.

She informed that the agency was partnering with law enforcement agents to apprehend those behind what she described as wicked act.She explained that the forum was aimed among others, to bring all micro influencers together, with a view to creating awareness campaign against human trafficking in their respective traditional and social media platforms.

According to the DG, over 12,000 victims of human trafficking had passed through the agency’s shelters, with 339 persons convicted since its inception in 2003, calling on parents and guardians not to fall prey to several tricks such as promises of a better living condition for their children.

She said: “They (traffickers) usually have answers and solutions to every question or objection one might raise concerning the trip. Thereafter, the trafficker tries to convince parents of his or her good intentions towards their daughter and their entire family, often reiterating the fact that all he/she wants to do is to help them.

Parents are told not to tell anybody about the ‘good fortune’ that is about to happen to their family so people won’t be envious of them. Thereafter, the victim is taken to a shrine and made to swear to an oath of secrecy, pledging that she will not divulge the information to anyone and will pay a specified amount of money to the trafficker.

“A passport is procured for the victim, usually with a fake name before the victim is taken away into slavery and bondage by the trafficker, who might end up selling her to another trafficker.”

The NAPTIP boss further advised parents not to leave their children alone with their domestics workers ,particularly drivers , without an adult opposite sex accompanying them to schools, some minors had been abused sexually.

She said that aside sensitising students on the danger of falling victim of human trafficking , the agency would soon establish information boxes in public schools across the country , where people who have information on activities of human traffickers can have access to , with a view to leading to the arrest of the suspect. Such information, according to her, should also include that on any agent who insist on collecting money on behalf of a maid and on any guardian who maltreats house helps

She further informed that special courts had been established to hasten cases of human trafficking, assuring informants that their information would with treated with utmost confidentiality.

At the agency’s shelters, the DG NAPTIP said that victims were empowered educationally or on skills before they are reintegrated into the society. So far , she said some of the victims at the shelters had become graduates while others were undergraduates.


Between rage and abuse: Why people kill their spouses

Akolade Arowolo pastured young people at a branch of Redeemed Christian Church of God in Lagos. One day, last year, he murdered his wife, stabbing her 76 times in “the left eye, right eye, upper chest area, right chest and collar bone.”

He claimed his wife was possessed and inflicted the injuries on herself.

Forensics expert showed the court his wife couldn’t have done all the stabbing to herself. He got a death sentence, to die by hanging.

When the judge read out the statement, Arowolo fell down in the dock, screaming, “Jesus, have mercy.”

In Jos, Nanbur Vongtan, is in court for stabbing his wife to death when she returned to her father’s home and refused an order to cook for him.

It is not the first time a husband has killed his wife, or a wife killed her husband.

Police in Kano are on a manhunt for a teenage bride who poisoned her husband and fled after he died.

Mariticide (killing a husband) and uxoricide (killing a wife) have been in human societies as long as they have existed. It is not new. They are only popping up more frequently in the news these days.

“Close proximity of spouses makes it conducive for one to take offence against the other or fail to do,” says Chukwunonso Okafo, criminology expert and dean at the faculty of law, University of Nigeria, Nsukka.

The situation can escalate depending on how each partner handles it, but both necessarily contribute to the outcome. But increasing media focus on the goings-on in families is bringing dirty family linens into public view.

“These days, when you have the focus of society on what goes on in the family more so than you had in the past, these things are bound to come to light,” says Okafo.

And the media-both formal and informal, with everyone able to collect and disseminate any incident, “circumstances within the family can now be made available to a larger public,” says Okafo.

That’s part of the larger focus. Last year, Maryam Sanda, married to the son of a former chairman of the People’s Democratic Party got in the news for stabbing her husband to death.

Investigation into the murder hasn’t thrown up hard facts, but the public has been agog on social media, debating details, conjectures and mostly speculations.

Law enforcement is investigating a crime.

“There’s no reason to assume that because they are related, it is something less than killing,” says Okafo.

“Spousal relationships means there is need to look closer because there must have been some very close contact between the individuals, some of which may excuse the offender.”

Extenuating circumstances abound in the eyes of the law. Take provocation, where the offender acted because of activities of the victim. It is different from when someone just gets up and does the killing without instigation.

Nearly every wife or husband killer has claimed some provocation, but not all of them can stand as excuse.

Maryam’s story points to her finding compromising messages on her husband’s phone, which may be basis for provocation and acting in “the heat of the moment”.

In Bayelsa, Stephen Akpata also suspected his wife was being unfaithful. The couple had just finished having sex when he found the messages. But it didn’t stop him picking up a knife.

But the facts are sketchy. A husband-and-wife relationship is the closest any two humans can get into and each day comes with friction.

In Anambra, Everitus and his wife Fidelia got into a fight over Christmas food. An ex-boxer, he beat her to death.

In Oyo, Lowo and Yewande Oyediran lived the perfect life-she in Ibadan, him in France. But he returned to work on a project, and another project was to take him to Denmark. He wanted to go; she didn’t want him to leave. She stabbed in a fight, he got treated. The later stabbing that killed him was while he slept.

Friction “is fairly common in spousal relationships,” says Okafo. Think moving a toothbrush or not replacing the water in the fridge. Not all sources of friction should call for murder or qualifies as basis of action, especially violence.

“A reasonable person will not always go that far in terms of reacting to every little thing,” says Okafo.

“It is the big things we are interested in, that could be the basis for provocation.”

The big things start in the individual mind, psychologists say. Psychologist Rukkaya Mansur didn’t like the tweets and posts delving into Sanda’s story with little understanding of the facts of the case. Those have pushed the truth so far off track, it has gone into hiding.

A pastor in Benin City, Henry Odion, murdered his wife in the presence of their six-month-old child, then fled. Police found 10 questions he’d penned, presumably, for his wife before her death.

A rule of thumb is that multiple stabbings imply rage-when one is so blind with anger, they can’t see or think clearly-and a problem managing anger.

“It is a psychological issue where you haven’t controlled yourself or had help controlling your anger-to the point where you can explode and harm someone,” says Mansur.

“Anger is very psychological. If your anger isn’t checked, anyone is capable of doing anything.”

And there is a lot of it going around these days.

“Society is angry at just about everything. It is not just wife killing husband, there are so many killings that you find that the cause of killing is anger. I feel there is so much pent-up frustration and it so much going on. Mindfulness and learning how to be calm might also help.”

Marriage, in months or years, is grounds for things to go wrong.

“In two years, a lot can happen in a relationship, on both sides,” says Mansur.

“Both parties could have felt wronged at some point. That’s how marriage is. But to get to a point where violence is the end, it feels like there might have been a building up and then an explosion.”

Mindfulness requires a calm temperament, she adds. People with calmer temperament never go that way, but people who are hot headed might if they are not very good at anger management.

And society has a lot to do and say about factors that could depress a spouse to the point of violence. Psychologists look at the individual, sociology looks at factors in society that predispose individuals to mariticide or uxoricide.

The year 2016 was famous for husbands who killed their wives. But 2017 turned the trend upside down: women were the ones lashing out, and sociology bears them out.

In Nigeria, as elsewhere in Africa, the demands of culture and attitudes suppress women, sociologists believe.

“There is a limit to which you can suppress before there will be an outburst,” says Anthony Agbor, development sociologist at the Kwararafa University, Taraba.

“What we are witnessing at the moment is outburst as a result of imbalance in gender mainstreaming. If there is no balance in relationships, there is likely to be an outburst and the outburst is most likely to come from the one on the receiving side.”

Cultural factors give men leverages and positional attributes to women. Sayings abound how women are to be seen, not heard; to be felt, not to feel or express themselves.

“The stooge attitude we have created has created a backlog of suppressed social action,” he says.

African societies give men a right to receive incomes, keep it to themselves and use it to better themselves. The woman doesn’t even have to know about it. A woman exposed and working beside men gets to know she can earn same or even higher.

“And then she comes home to see a man who does not want to take that into recognition and feels like the woman doesn’t have a position in family structuring, decision making around the family, society or community,” says Agbor.

“This denial of outlet to express yourself is technically an endangered action that predisposes women to be built the way they are.”

Another scenario. A man can dress how he likes, drink as much as he wants, enjoys as much as his wealth can carry, but a woman hasn’t got the same opportunities. Instead, she is predisposed to venereal infections, childbirth with little or no hope of surviving.

“And all the man puts up is, ‘I can provide income to take care of her maternal fees and if she gives birth, I can get her a home to bring back her child in,’” says Agbor. “That’s all.”

That’s recipe for disaster, sociologists believe. What’s missing is compatibility. Agbor did a study defining compatibility as better off as not plus-plus but plus-minus, where strength and weakness prop up each other.

“There is a level to which a man can express his strength and he should be able to admit his weakness, as well as the woman,” he explains.

It all comes down to patriarchy, and it is “dangerous when you look at the position of Africans and Nigerians in contemporary times,” says Agbor.

“We are yet to actually define our culture and tenets of relationship. We want to copy the white man’s lifestyle but we don’t want to really understand what makes him behave in the manner he behaves.”

For one instance, traditional rites for contracting marriages are being downplayed in favour of western-styled “white weddings” yet the clinging on to traditional rites is strong.

“If we are neither here nor there, this conflict in thoughts and positioning is what is bringing out this upset,” says Agbor.

Sociology proposes a couple of theorems. Acculturation. That’s “adopting the culture of strange societies without knowing the consequences and placing it higher than our own culture,” says Agbor.

Another is cultural diffusion. “We have allowed the intrinsic side of western culture to penetrate our core culture, and now we are sitting on the fence; are we really Africans, or Nigerians, or westerners?

“We want to empower our women but we are afraid of them dominating us, then why are we trying to empower them? We want to create a balanced gender relation but we think the women are too powerful to be given equal rights and justice. We are yet to take a stand as to what will work effectively for us.”

Society has fashioned marriage in such a way that what goes on within isn’t for public consumption. And how society reacts when people open up on the goings-on, dealing out ostracism and stigma makes it certain that people go back to their marriage and “continue to endure the situation,” says clinical psychologist Samuel Adekunle.

Maureen Adejo endured abuse in her five-year-long marriage to Olaoluwa. She is reported to have suffered torture, being whipped with a belt and cut with a machete, according to statements by the couple’s five-year-old son.

He told newspapers how his father forced rat poison down his mother’s throat.

“For it to get to the point of murdering their spouse, apparently they must have been enduring abuse in the relationship, whether male or female, that gets to the point where they cannot tolerate it anymore. The likelihood is for one to end it all.

“Initially we used to see cases of suicide from spouses that are abused, but now they tend to attack the perpetrator. In doing that, they hope to get a respite from what they are passing through.

A separation doesn’t come easy when a woman’s livelihood and identity are tied to her spouse’s.

“If you stay away for a while how do you sustain a living, sustain an identity, manage the perceptions society will throw at you. That option becomes very difficult to take.

Outright divorce, according to people who have gone through it, is only easier when a woman has some independence already.

“You get to fill a form and on marital status, you fill divorce, the way you are looked at, the op being offered is approved different from other people. There is a whole lot of stigma surrounding people who are divorced.

So a separation isn’t easy, divorce comes with stigma, and murder comes with jail time. Why take the chances. Something happens in the brain when it comes to that now-or-never, do-or-die moment.

“Someone who gets to that point of taking that step must have felt all other options will not lead to resolving that issue. It can be rage. Someone provoked, by the time they lose it, the person is difficult to calm down. It can lead to actions they take and afterwards regret.

In rage, the forebrain which controls logical thinking is suspended. Activities there slow down, and blood supply rushes to the part of the brain responsible for fight-or-flight response.

It is survival. “You attack or you flee,” says Adekunle.

“Attacking that source of danger could be you taking something to harm the person or escaping. There are several things that can go in. that’s what research shows of the brain during rage.”


(daily trust)

An Ordinary Student From Lagos Earns $200 A Day While Staying At Home

My name is Kenneth, I’m 20 years old and last week I earned my first million working in the web from my laptop. To be honest, I couldn’t even dream about such great money when I was a second-year student, failed my winter exams and got expelled  I was unexpectedly thrown alone into this big world, I had no job, and, to cap the matters, a notice arrived that I should undergo a medical check before going to serve the army…

The medical check was going rather slowly, and I wasn’t going to leave until the winter conscription. But now I have my money and I feel absolutely safe! A friend of mine was making money in the web while I was studying but I thought he was just an idiot who was trying to earn something without a higher education. That time I was waiting for my degree and expecting a $300-$400 job, even if now it looks just ridiculous.

Anyway, I decided to earn something myself and asked my friend about what he was doing. I started looking for some freelance jobs but each time I just got cheated. Once I translated a huge text into English for free, and another time I spent 2 weeks performing some tasks and filling in questionnaires but never got paid. I think you might face that as well, if you haven’t already!

Things changed when I found some website and decided to log in. Then I started reading their materials and found out that the website was about binary options trading. Now I know that it’s just a PARADISE for novices and a great opportunity if you have no particularly skills! You can work comfortably from any place using only a special program on your laptop or smart phone.

The next step is to develop your own strategy and start earning big money! As for me, I raised $500 the very first week! I had no knowledge at all! And I was nothing but a novice in this business! But now I managed to buy a nice car, I can afford renting a smart apartment in the centre of the city and live separately from my parents! Anyway, if you still have doubts, just log in and try working with a demo account putting no real money at risk.

I think you will be able to earn as much as I do. There are a lot of training materials on this website that will help you to raise your first $500 or even $1000 after just a week! Good luck!

( source guardian)

JAMB fixes new date for sale of forms

The Joint Admissions and Matriculation Board, JAMB, has fixed a date for the commencement of the sale of the 2018 application forms.

The board said the sale and registration for all candidates including those from foreign countries will hold from December 6 to  February 6, 2018.

The spokesperson of the board, Fabian Benjamin, said this in an interaction with PREMIUM TIMES Sunday evening.

He said  registration fee is N5,000 while an additional N500 will be paid to obtain a compulsory reading text “IN DEPENDENCE” for UTME candidates and “The Last Days at Forcados High School” for direct entry candidates.

According to the board, candidates who are interested in the mock examination are advised to register before December 31.

“The MOCK examination shall commence from Monday 22 to Wednesday 24 January, 2018 and the  CBT Centres are allowed to collect, through their bank accounts, a separate ₦700 for this exercise from  interested candidates after notification of centre has been received by
the candidate.”

PREMIUM TIMES had earlier reported how the board postponed the date for the sale of  2018 application forms due to the delay in meeting the agreed deadline by the publisher of the compulsory text meant for prospective candidates.

The board had also proposed March 9 to 17, 2018 as the date for the examination.

The Joint Admissions and Matriculation Board, JAMB,  is a Nigerian  entrance examination board for tertiary-level institutions.

The board is charged with the responsibility to administer similar examinations for applicants to Nigerian public and private universities, monotechnics, polytechnics and colleges of education. All of these candidates must have obtained the West Africa School Certificate, now West Africa Examinations Council, WAEC, or its equivalent, National Examination Council, NECO.

NBTE wants FG to establish more technical colleges

Executive Secretary of the National Board for Technical Education (NBTE), Dr Mas’udu Kazaure, has called on the Federal Government to establish more technical colleges across the country.

Kazaure told newsmen, in Kaduna, on Wednesday, that the country was supposed to have at least one technical college in each of the 774 Local Government Areas.

He said the measure was necessary in order to check Nigeria’s skilled labour deficit.

“Based on the nation policy on education, we are supposed to have 774 technical colleges across the country, but we only have 110; 17 federal colleges, 90 state colleges and three owned by private.

“This means that we still have deficit of 664 technical colleges that needs to be established.

“We need to establish more technical and technological institutions to improve access to technical education and boost our technical, innovative and inventive skills that will meet our industrial needs, “he said.

According to him, there was also the need to focus on building skills for key economic sectors that will support the country’s socio-economic transformation for sustainable development.

Kazaure said that the board has 523 technical institutions under its purview comprising 112 polytechnics, 35 colleges of agriculture, 29 colleges of health sciences, and 26 specialised institutions.

Others are 138 innovation enterprises institutions, 110 technical colleges, and 73 vocational enterprise institutions.

He identified some challenges affecting the technical education system to include delay in the review of Federal Polytechnic Act, in release of funds and nonpayment of salaries in many state’s polytechnics.


(source punch)